My name is Lily-Sue, but my mummy calls me Munchkin (or 'Munch' for short!) I am 8 years old, and this is where my mummy will help me write all about all the fun things we do together. I hope you enjoy reading about the adventures of my mummy and me, Munchkin, with the occasional appearance from the siblings - Beastie and Plumlet.

Wednesday, 26 March 2014

Getting our LolliBopping feet ready ...!

Lollibop 2014, announces a new home!

LolliBop, the UK’s biggest kids festival, has announced its 2014 festival will take place at Hatfield House, August 15-17.

If you are a follower of our blog, you will know that we are huge fans of LolliBop, and Munchkin & I have been lucky enough to have attended every year since it began! 

Munchkin absolutely loves the LolliBop Festival, and she will sit and tell you ALL about it if you asked her! You'd need a bit of time on your hands though, as she has a whole lot to say about it! Just avoid asking her about her favourite thing about the day ... she just can't decide! She'll tell you about the main stage action which has been 'home' to superstars such as CBeebies presenters Sid, Andy and Alex, the chilled and funky Rastamouse with his Easy Crew, the musical Zingzillas, the lovable Poppy Cat, the zany, messy duo Dick & Dom, and of course, the highlight of 2013, Justin Fletcher!

She will tell you all about dancing with Hello Kitty and meeting Peppa, George, Ben and Holly ...

She will tell you all about the fun that is to be had by little ones of all ages within the several dedicated activity areas, including the WOW Toys tent, the 3ft and Under area, Imagination Stations and the Itsy Bitsy Strictly Dancefloor!

She will tell you all about the fantastic Face Painting artists that are situated around the park, and the stalls upon stalls of wonderful vendors that are there to showcase and sell their goodies!

So, as you can see, she would have you listening to her experiences of LolliBop for quite some time! And she is just as excited about what the festival has in store for 2014. Maybe even a little more so this year, as we are hoping to introduce Beastie Boo to the delights this year too. We think she will love it! 

So, a little more about the amazing new venue that will be home to LolliBop this Summer ...

Situated in Herfordshire, just off the A1 or a 22 minute train journey from London Kings Cross, the stunning country house and gardens of Hatfield House offer an incredible array of spaces to house LolliBop’s vast activity and entertainment programme.

Hatfield House is famous for its beautiful gardens and attractions, including the incredible sundial garden and fountains, a magical woodlands and the famous knot garden adjoining the Tudor Old Palace where Queen Elizabeth I spent much of her time as a child. 

Festival Director Gareth Cooper said:

“For a family destination, Hatfield House can’t be beaten. LolliBop has taken place in numerous locations over the years, and we firmly believe our home for 2014 is our best yet. The setting is breathtaking - with stunning gardens, lush green areas and a woodlands just waiting to be explored - it’s allowed us to open our imaginations and programme an event like never before".

Hatfield House is one of the Treasure Houses of England, making it one of the top 10 most magnificent palaces in all of the UK. 

With good motorways links, extensive on site parking and just a five minute walk from Hatfield train station, LolliBop 2014 is more accessible than ever before.

Renowned for bringing some of the biggest names in children’s entertainment to its live stages, LolliBop also plays host to science and educational zones, crafts areas and adventure activities. The 2014 lineup promises to be more diverse; exciting and extraordinary than ever before, with a host of brand new names, partnerships and play never before seen at LolliBop. 

Festival Director Gareth Cooper continues:

“We’ve been working hard to secure some of the best-loved names in children’s entertainment. The 2014 lineup will be jam packed with big names for the main stage, alongside an unprecedented number of live theatre performances; plus sporting activities; creative workshops; nature talks and brand new areas and acts, never before seen at LolliBop.”

We think the new venue looks really amazing and cannot wait to hear more about the planned line-up! We will be sure to fill you in as and when we hear more during the next few months.

Exciting times ahead, LolliBoppers!!!

LolliBop Early Bird tickets go on sale on Friday, March 28, priced £17.50pp.

Keep up to date with all the latest festival news on the official website or by following the team on Facebook

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Tuesday, 18 March 2014

Dancing with Rainbows, twinkling with stars - that's Lulu and Nat!

The time is finally approaching. It looks as though we could be moving home again very soon. Hopefully before the Summer! We have been in our current home since August, 2013, so not very long. But this place was only meant to be temporary, as we knew that it would only really be suitable until Baby Plum arrived and started needing his own space. That time is not far off!

I am very excited about moving to a home that is more appropriate for our needs and more suitable for our little family. One of the things I am most excited about is kitting out bedrooms for the kids!

Now, the high street do some lovely bits to 'glam up' the children's bedrooms. We live in rented property at the moment, and are therefore often limited as to what we can decorate, and so I like to look at adding colour and that personal touch with accessories and furniture. Looking around the high street, I can get some lovely ideas. Pretty pink bedding sets for the girls, funky blue patterned curtains for Plum ... But I want something a bit more unique. I wanted to find somewhere that would offer whole sets of goodies in matching styles, maybe even some unisex styles, as our world has been so pink for the last few years, it would be lovely to have a wider choice.

Then I discovered Lulu & Nat. I had never heard of them before, but that will be because they are relatively new to the market compared to some of the bigger, more recognised brands.

"Lulu & Nat was founded in 2007 with a dream to create playful, bold designs for kids to live in colour & dream in colour."

I had finally found exactly what I was looking for! One place that would provide modern designs with fun, vibrant colours that would appeal to both us and the kids, and which could be perfectly coordinated to create a wonderful space for the children. One that they can be truly proud of!

Looking through the site, I have found designs that are simply ideal for each of the children's bedrooms. Take a look at the delights I've found ...!

I know I said there was a certain appeal to the choice of unisex styles on the Lulu & Nat website, but Munchkin will be her pink, fluffy, girly self and, for now, that is how she will stay! I would therefore stay true to this and choose styles that reflect her girly girl character. Lulu & Nat cover this!

Lulu & Nat's Butterfly collection would be perfect for Munchkin's bedroom. She loves her pinksand purples, and adores butterflies and flowers, so this would be the natural choice for her. Even if her new bedroom has plain white or magnolia walls, these accessories will help fill the room with colour without making any permanent changes! As shown here, the Butterfly collection includes the full duvet set, pillowcase, cushions (one is even in the shape of a heart ... extra appeal for Munch!), pretty butterly print bunting for the wall and a brightly coloured butterfly print wall hanging. A pretty pink floor rug and some fairy lights added would make for a beautiful little haven for our girly 4 year old!

Then we have Beastie Boo's bedroom. As pretty and girly as she is (thanks to the influences of her big sister!), Beastie is a little more about the rough & tumble than Munch. She is more about the bright colours and fun & funky prints. Once again, Lulu & Nat can provide ...!

Here, something completely different, but totally perfect! Lulu & Nat's Rainbow collection will create a brightly coloured décor without being too feminine! Ideal for any toddler, boy or girl, they can also enjoy the full duvet set and pillowcases and a gorgeous rainbow print cushion for extra comfort. This collection also includes the cutest set of rainbow print pyjamas that Beastie will just adore! And the best thing about this choice is, it would also be suitable for Baby Plum if we ever fancied a 'swap around'!

As for Baby Plum, Lulu & Nat have a stunning Nursery section with so many gorgeous prints, I'm actually having trouble deciding which I like the best! Plum is our little bit of blue in our pinkish universe, and we have been enjoying the little bit of balance that he has brought to our lives! However, there are so many really attractive unisex designs on the website, I haven't felt limited to solely pinks and blues which is very refreshing! 

I do really love the blue stars in this design, and love that it also contains splashes of red to compliment the pattern, making it fun and bright, but definitely perfect for a little boy like Plum, who will, one day, be wanting to escape the world of princesses and pink and find refuge in his own little blue (ish!) bolthole! The accessories I found here perfect for Plum are the lovely cot set, complete with quilt & cover and pillowcase for when he is a bit older and cot bumper. Also, a lovely, bold star printed rug for the floor to brighten up the plain, bland floor covering that normally comes with a rented property! Again, some fantastic matching bunting for the wall too. Here, I found two quilts that I fell in love with for Plum - the blue star quilt with a cute lion design and the reversible stars and stripes quilt. Both would look wonderful in a room decorated this way. 

What's more, if you're handy with a sewing machine (I'm working on that one!), then the individual designs are also available to buy in measurements of material, meaning you can make curtains, endless numbers of cushions, even cuddly toys to match the chosen theme of the room! The possibilities are endless!

I love it when a room's décor can really reflect the personality of those that occupy it, and Lulu & Nat cater for this in a fun yet flexible way, allowing you to coordinate, combine and mix & match until you create that perfect space for you and your little ones. And I haven't even delved into what they have in store for me and The Mr for our bedroom, the living room and the kitchen yet! It's all there! 

Now I'm even more excited about moving home! The Mr had better hide his bank cards ... This could get pricey!!!

All thoughts and words here are 100% my own!

Thursday, 6 March 2014

Oh, dear NHS ... And you were doing so well!

Tuesday, 4th March, 2014. A long awaited date. This was the day we were finally off to our hospital appointment with Baby Plum. An appointment we've been eagerly longing for and dreading all at once. And the day was going so well, considering, until ...

... Let me start at the beginning ...

Monday, 23rd December, 2013. That's the one - the day we welcomed Baby Plum into the Munchkin Patch. Our beautiful baby boy was finally here after what had been a trouble free pregnancy until the 3rd trimester. Then the problems started. The hospital visits, the tense, tearful calls to NHS Direct, the unexpected and unplanned admission to hospital, the discomfort, having to remove Munchkin from nursery for the last couple of weeks before Christmas to save myself and baby from the unthinkable, the worry-filled sleepless nights, the stress, the tears, the worry ...

Pretty standard for some during pregnancy, I know. But I'll put my hands up. I struggled. There, I said it. But it was ok. I had R. The most wonderful midwife I could ever wish for. She was perfect. Calm, reassuring, positive, reliable, clear, encouraging, honest and a full bank of knowledge. She had an answer for every question I had, and she was never wrong! I felt so lucky to have her taking care of me and Baby Plum, and the girls loved her too. They were with me for every antenatal check, and she would chat to them, laugh with them, always address them by their names and involved them in everything that was appropriate. 

What more could an expectant mummy want ...? 
Cheeky, sneaky NHS ... You kept this one well hidden!!
As I said, it was all going considerably well.

Then the day finally arrived. Arriving at the hospital, the staff were amazing. I gave birth to Munchkin and Beastie Boo at this same hospital, and have always been looked after incredibly well. This time seemed no different. The difference was, Plum's delivery was planned. As a result of the traumatic births with both girls, Plum needed to be delivered by planned Caesarian Section. I met the Surgery Midwife, the Consultant, the Anaesthetist, as each explained their roles to me and the risks involved down to the smallest detail. I felt safe with each and every one of them. Even when I had a complete emotional meltdown at the door to the Operating Theatre, I was well supported and never once felt belittled or ridiculed for my nerves. They went on to successfully deliver the most perfect little boy I have ever set my eyes on. Our Baby Plum. 

NHS ... You got it right again! 

Some time spent on the Close Monitoring Unit meant we could receive extra medical attention and more regular, detailed observations. And this was what happened, until the first night of our stay. Baby Plum seemed so determined to breast feed.More determined than either of the girls were. I was over the moon at the notion that I was finally going to be able to successfully breast feed. It felt really good ... Until Plum wanted his late evening feed. He wouldn't latch. He really wanted to, he was getting frustrated that he couldn't, but he kept trying so hard. There was something about his determination that kept me positive. He was more interested in breast feeding than either of the girls were and this made me want to persevere. I remembered all the things I was shown by the Health Visitors who helped me when I was struggling to feed the girls - the most effective holds, the comfortable angles, but something wasn't right. He was positioning his mouth just right, but still searching for the nipple. After hours of trying, and getting minimal support through the night, I was in a very emotional state. I was still attached to a drain and a drip which restricted my movements, yet the night shift midwife that was attending me offered very little help. I asked her to help me encourage his latch, but her idea of helping was asking me what side I wanted him. She would then pluck him from his crib, put him on my desired side of the bed, and leave me to it. She would leave me tackling the spaghetti-like wires and tubes, so that I could wrestle him (and me!) into a comfortable position. But it wasn't happening. When he started to make 'grunting' noises like he was gasping for air, she returned on my call, took a quick look into his crib and mumbled these 'reassuring' words to me ...

"There's nothing wrong with him. The doctor looked at him earlier and said he's fine"!!

Are you actually for real??!

From that moment on, I did my very best to avoid having to press that button for assistance until I was sure the staff had handed over for the morning shift. There are some words of wisdom I could really do without! I was made to feel like I was bothering her. Like I was disturbing her from her duties, which apparently, I wasn't a part of. I continued my hospital stay, feeling more comfortable with the daytime staff on CMU who seemed more attentive. Maybe this was the case, maybe moods were just high because it was now Christmas Eve. I'm not sure. 

I was moved to the Post Natal Ward, and continued to persevere with his feeding. What else could I do?! Christmas Day, and I was discharged from hospital. The Man came to get me with an excited Munchkin and Beastie Boo in tow, and we could take our Baby Plum home to start this amazing new chapter of our lives. Christmas Day was pretty much written off, but we had decided we would celebrate Christmas Day on Boxing Day, for the sake of the kids.

Sorry, Munch. One day you'll read this. Yes, Christmas Day 2013 was really Boxing Day. Think we pulled that one off quite well, didn't we? This doesn't mean it's ok to fib!!

Later that day, we had our routine midwife visit. R wasn't on duty, so I had another midwife visit us. She was nice. Seemed friendly and knowledgable enough. Then she dropped the bombshell. The second she lifted him from the cot, she saw it.

"Did they do the tongue tie referral for you at hospital ...?"

Sorry ...? The what ...?!

Apologies for the unpleasant photos. The only time we see his tongue like this is when he cries! 
Baby Plum was showing quite a prominent case of tongue tie, and the Paediatrician hadn't even noticed it! What else had she missed during her thorough discharge examination?? I hadn't noticed it. I wouldn't have known what I was looking at. But then I am a mother - not professionally medically trained and qualified like she was meant to be. And certainly not paid to detect and diagnose these conditions! Once the initial shock had subsided, she promised to complete the referral for us and assured me we would hear via either letter or phonecall of an appointment within around 2 weeks. She apologised that 2 weeks was a long time, but explained that the Christmas period would slow the process down slightly. 2 weeks wasn't long, so I wasn't too concerned.

Until 2 weeks turned into 3, which turned into 4. I chased up this referral. Got little joy from the hospital, so spoke to my Health Visitor who chased it up for me. So when she came back to me to confirm that Plum's birth had been registered, and told me that there was no record of a referral for him, I was angry. I was really angry.

During this time, I had been forced to abandon breast feeding Plum. He just wasn't latching successfully and I could now see why. He couldn't. And the whole time I thought there was hope around the corner, someone hadn't done their job properly. Maybe the referral hadn't been done like promised. Maybe it had been misplaced amongst reams of paperwork in some back office. I don't know. All I did know was, we were now looking at another fortnight or so wait for an appointment.

Again, very little I could do!

Just over a week later, a letter finally arrived with an appointment for Plum. Tuesday, 4th March, 2014. Ok, so we still had a few weeks to wait, but at least we had an appointment date. There was an end to the struggle in sight. Plum was still finding it difficult to feed, and these difficulties were becoming worse as he was becoming hungrier. He just can't get a proper seal on his bottle teat, meaning with every gulp of milk, he is also consuming a gulp of air. Every feed was ending the same way. Plum would scream in pain. You could feel the wind churning around in his little tummy. His tummy goes rock hard, his face screws up in pain, his knees shoot up to his chest, and the screaming starts. This was often followed by him bringing up half of his feed at some point too. But we could deal with it, as it would all be over on the 4th March.

Or would it ...?

Monday, 3rd March, 2014. I was busy preparing myself for the following day, making sure I had someone on standby to collect Munchkin from nursery in the event of us not being back in time, calling the hospital to check if there was anything we needed to bring with us for our appointment ...

"No, just bring baby and yourselves" ...

No problem, we can do that. Plum fed just before we set off out. So we got ourselves into the car, me, The Man, Plum and Beastie Boo, and made our way to the hospital. Not our local hospital though. We had to drive 20 miles to another hospital. We didn't mind - it was for a good cause, and we would travel a million miles if we had to for the sake of any one of these kids. 

After visiting one department, being booked in and being directed to another area, I sent The Man into the surgeon's room. I'm useless with things like this. Onto baby #3 and I'm only just coming round to having to take the kids for their vaccinations by myself. I opted to stay with Beastie in the toy-filled waiting area instead, giving The Man strict instructions to bring Plum out the very second he's allowed to so I could intervene with cuddles! A couple of tears from me and off they went. 

About 10 minutes later, they emerged from the room. The Man didn't look happy. And Plum didn't look like a baby who had just had his tongue snipped. It hadn't happened. 

"Have you got his bottle there ...?" 
... The Consultant waited for The Man's positive reply. 

We hadn't brought a bottle. He wouldn't take one as he had fed before we left and we knew we would be home before he needed another. So no, he didn't have his bottle there. That was it. The consultant was apparently not happy to carry out the procedure without a bottle there. Why? Because they measure the success of the operation by inspecting their latch on the bottle afterwards. Carrying out this procedure without a bottle was apparently "going against regulations". So, a pretty essential thing to bring along then? Maybe something that should have been put in the letter that contained our instructions for our visit? At the very least something that should have been told to me when I phoned ahead the previous day to prepare myself. I asked if I needed to bring anything. They told me no!!! Surely, if something is a fundamental part of the procedure, it shouldn't be left to the assumption that we would bring a feed with us? 

"Just go out to the desk and make another appointment", we were told. Oh, as simple as that then, yes? When we have been waiting since 26th December for this appointment, we should just go make another? Before I had a chance to digest any of this, the next patient had been called in. A woman with a 12 day old baby boy with the same condition. His hadn't been detected at hospital either. And the mother who had been in before us with her nearly 2 year old daughter - hers hadn't been noticed by any medical or health care professionals either. So we go to the desk to make another appointment. 

"You need to go upstairs to rebook. We can give you their number to call if you want to phone them instead, but I'll warn you ... They're not very keen on answering the phone up there"!

Seriously ...?! 'Not very keen on answering the phones' ...?! Am I actually hearing this right?

I took Plum, in my arms, upstairs to rebook, not fancying the idea of sitting on the end of the phone, ringing a number that doesn't get answered.

"We don't book the appointments here. It's all done centrally. When your notes go through and they realise the procedure hasn't taken place, they'll send you another appointment in the post"!

Out through the door, grab a coffee, into the car and home again. Furious!

So now we are home again. Plum is still tongue tied. He is still struggling to feed and writhing with his wind pains. I am still without that hope around the corner. And for what? Because of a breakdown in communication? Because someone has failed to fulfil their professional duties? Because people just don't care? I'm inclined to tick all of the above. 

So, to the NHS who I feel have completely failed us in this situation ... 

Why, when your staff fail to detect and diagnose this condition in the first place, are you not ensuring parents are appropriately equipped when attending a procedure as important as this? It may not be a major operation to you, but to a mum or dad who is having to sit up at all hours of the day and night, consoling and comforting a baby who is in great discomfort and pain due to their inability to feed properly, this is big! To new parents who have to sit with their tiny baby whilst he screams and sheds real tears when he should be settling into a comfortable sleep after a 3am feed, this is big! To me, The Man and Baby Plum, this is big!!! So why is it so insignificant to your hospital staff, and to whoever it is that issues these appointments? Why aren't there appropriate measures put in place to provide the correct equipment for these unsuspecting, uneducated parents, if you are not willing to provide the correct information before such a procedure? Why do you continue to let people down? 

Oh, and why on earth do you employ reception staff who are "not keen on answering the phones" ...?!

As I said at the beginning of this post ... Things were going so well. Obviously a little too well. 

NHS ... You've completely failed us here!